Question: If not The Secret, then what books do you recommend to get people out of their self-fulfilling prophecy for a mediocre life? I mean I hear people all the time say "they can't do this or that." Please let me know of any tools I could use.
Response:The Secret is diametrically opposed to the teachings of the Bible. Moreover, we're concerned that your goal seems to be getting "people out of their self-fulfilling prophecy for a mediocre life." As Christians, we are called to an "objective" life, not a "subjective" one.
David wrote, "O God, thou art my God; early will I seek thee: my soul thirsteth for thee, my flesh longeth for thee in a dry and thirsty land, where no water is" (Ps:63:1).
An objective focus is consistent throughout Scripture: "Wherefore, seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God" (Heb:12:1-2). We run this "race" looking unto Jesus, not at ourselves.
In short, when we live our lives focused upon "self," it is not surprising that we conclude we "can't do this or can't do that." Consider the contrast with Paul's assurance that "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me" (Phil:4:13). The difference is, he wasn't focused on self, his was an objective faith.
This world has turned the biblical model upside down. We are told to seek after experiences. Not so. We are told in the Bible to seek God. In Acts 3, Peter and John weren't seeking an experience when they went down to the temple at "the hour of prayer" (Acts:3:1). They were seeking God in prayer. Along the way, however, they had an experience with a "certain man lame from his mother's womb." Before the Holy Spirit-directed series of events was finished (including their confrontation with the religious leaders), more souls were added to the church (Acts:4:4).
Even those who opposed them were affected: "Now when they saw the boldness of Peter and John, and perceived that they were unlearned and ignorant men, they marvelled; and they took knowledge of them, that they had been with Jesus. And beholding the man which was healed standing with them, they could say nothing against it" (Acts:4:13-14).
Regarding other books than the Bible, William MacDonald's little book True Discipleship has proven to be an encouragement to many, as has Dave Hunt's Seeking and Finding God.